Option 3: Find your own Switzerland- the one where you select the neutral grounds
While the two options above put one of you in a more favorable position, the greatest pro of the third solution is that you are at the same level of commitment. You both leave your lives behind and start fresh… together. You build your common life and none of you have an advantage over the other.
The funny part is that the exact same things that are the advantage can also be seen as disadvantages. The obvious cons are that none of you has a network, you both need to look for new jobs (can any of you move and keep the job that you have?), and you can both bring in some bitterness over leaving the lives that you’ve had behind.
How do you find your own Switzerland? You of course need to brainstorm countries that attract you both, take under consideration career opportunities and languages.