/Following Challenge of the Week is a former “Active Challenge 15: Is sugar dating a good idea to finance your lifestyle?“/
Let’s recall your Challenge first:
How many of the expats, would chose to go into sugar dating, just to finance their studies and their lifestyle? – such as paying for rent, food, and everything you need to live a decent life?
I mean, there are people who won’t admit it, because is their real name out there, and they need to maintain an image for themselves, but really, if you had the possibility to be completely invisible and nobody could ever find out how you finance your lifestyle, would you do it?
I know that I am doing it.
We have tried to get in touch with you, as your description is missing the final formulation of what your challenge really is. What would you like us to give you 5 options for? Is it for how to finance your studies and lifestyle? Or maybe for how to remain incognito while having a sugar daddy paying your bills? We’re not sure really, but since you have reached out to us, we have decided to take it in, even though we don’t know exactly what the challenge for you is :).
That means that we had to decide ourselves what the edge here is.
What’s wrong about sugar dating?
So the first thing I asked myself when solving the challenge was: Is it WRONG or BAD to find a sugar daddy to finance your lifestyle?
I couldn’t of course answer with a straight forward “yes” or “no”, simply because that’s something everyone has to determine for themselves . I truly believe that every experience in our lives is a great opportunity to learn something new about “me” or about the world around me.
I did some research and apparently sugar dating is quite a big thing those days, I was able to find many portals that serve “sugar daddies,” “sugar mammas” and “sugar babes.” I was also able to find out that in many countries sugar dating is not illegal as such, but the relationships established between the two parties are often set up in an illegal way. It is quite a controversial topic, and even though it seems to be quite common, going into “sugar business” could still have both personal and social implications in your life.
Is it something for you?
Which is why, I figured that the best way to go about this challenge is to help you determine if sugar dating is something right for you.
We as humans quite often struggle with finding out if a specific activity really serves us. Some of us avoid certain experiences that could be great for us because of, for example, fear, whilst others jump right into new things without even giving a thought to whether that will do them any good. The truth is that each and every one of us has that inner voice, the compass that helps us navigate through sometimes curvy paths of life. At times we forget to use it. Other times we decide to turn it off. Yet it is still there, available for us to be used, we just need to turn up the volume.
So, this week we offer you the opportunity to sit back, relax and allow your own inner wisdom guide you to the right solution. We’ll invite you to imagine yourself in 5 different scenarios. This simple exercise will help you answer a few key questions that will lead you to an answer to the mother of all questions: Is going for a sugar daddy something right for you?
“Fight or flight” response
The way it works is that you take time out for yourself so that you can actually concentrate on hearing your inner voice. It may take a bit of practice to be able to recognise the difference between your first “fight or flight response” and your inner guidance. Very often, when we are about to get ourselves into a new experience our brain takes over and produces loads of thoughts which disrupt our ability to connect with the inner voice.
Instead of listening to our wisdom, we hear a lot of negative chatter. That’s exactly why it is very important to take the time and relax so that you can allow your sub consciousness to speak to you. That inner voice can come to us in several different ways, some people will really hear some talking in their heads, while others will just get a sensation/ or feeling.
The thing is that when you imagine a given situation and you get a “good stomach feeling” then you are good. If, on the other hand, it feels bad inside, then well… your sub consciousness is trying to tell you that you are not in alignment with yourself. You may also come to feel a variety of different emotions: confusion, fear, excitement. All those inner responses are an important message for you.
So, let’s jump right into it!
Read your 5 questions and listen to the podcast
Scenario 1: Imagine that you have to tell your mum & dad about it. How does it feel?
Scenario 2: Imagine that no-one will ever find out about it, would you go for it?
Scenario 3: Imagine that you meet the love of your life now. Are you fine with telling him about sugar dating?
Scenario 4: Imagine yourself in 5 years: are you still fine with sugar-dating in the past?
Scenario 5: Imagine you have a daughter and she wants to sugar date. Would you be fine with / like her to do it?
We gave you quite a long introduction, five scenarios to work with and quite some questions to answer.
Being in alignment with yourself has a lot to do with maturity and with how well you know yourself. We are aware that it’s not an easy task and it requires some practice to get through all those layers to access your wisdom and get down to what really is best for you. You have to dig through your own inner chatter and the programming that has been running in your head for some years.
However, if you work through those exercises, you will do yourself a true favor. The reality is that we are learning throughout our lives and we are constantly evolving, we may sometimes walk through quite a bumpy journey, but the sooner we learn how to access our inner guidance, the easier it will be for us to make those big life decisions and the more fulfilled we’ll feel. We hope that you enjoy the exercises and that they’ll help directing you to the right path for you. Good luck!