Challenge of the Week: 5 ways to cope with a friend that is in love with you when you don’t feel the same

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/Following Challenge of the Week is a former “Challenge 5: How to stay friends with someone who’s in love with you but you don’t feel the same?”/


Greetings Egle,

Thank you for sharing your Challenge with us! We have come up with 5 Options for you (including one excesrise) and hopefully after reading it (and listening to the podcast) you feel find a answer in yourself what to do next.

Your Challenge touches upon an ageless question: Is it possible to be friends with someone who is in love with you but you don’t feel the same? The common answer you will hear from most people is… “NO”. But, you know what? You’ve Got 5 Options is not about “the common answers”. We want to go beyond the “common” and by giving you 5 different solutions, inspire you to find your own way.

So grab for your headset, tune in for podcast and read your solution below!


Ep05 Five Options to cope with a Friend that is in Love with You when You Don’t feel the same


So here’s Your Challenge:

There is a guy.

It all started when I attended a party few years back. He invited me to be his Facebook friends, but we didn’t talk much apart from wishing each other “happy birthday”. And that is how 6 years passed, until half a year ago we met again. And again, totally by mistake.
Since then, we started chatting over social media.

Twice a week became every day in seconds and now, half a year later; we tend to Skype on weekly basis.

Why don’t we meet, you’d ask? He lives around 3000 km away from me.

The problem is, I do not feel attracted to him in any ways. I just like to talk to him and spend my free time with him. I don’t have any feelings towards him, whereas he openly told me he loved me and he won’t let me go.

I don’t know how to treat the situation anymore. I don’t want to limit our daily conversations, but I cannot enter a fake and distance “relationship”. You’ve got any comments?

Dear Egle, your options are:


Option 1: Let Him Go…
Option 2: …Or Let Yourself Go
Option 3: Become his Bro… literally
Option 4: Play the “Incompatible Girlfriend Material” card and if this won’t work – become CLINGY and NEEDY
Option 5: Reflect on yourself and try to figure out what DO YOU REALLY FEEL and why is this “a Challenge” for you in a first place


To read more about each step, please click on the icons below

Option 1 from 5 options     Option 2 from 5 Options     Option 3 from 5 options     Option 4 from 5 Options     Option 5 from 5 Options


Much Love,

Anna & Marta